The Christmas holidays are approaching, and we usually spend a lunch, dinner, or an entire day with family or friends.
Theoretically, these moments should be pleasant, joyful, peaceful, and uplifting for the soul.
Unfortunately, this is not always the case.
For a peaceful and enriching gathering, we only need to follow a few simple "guidance for harmony" that will make everyone feel comfortable and end the day with a sense of peace.
- Be punctual and respectful
Se gli ospiti hanno indicato un orario, rispettalo e presta attenzione a qualsiasi altra If the hosts have set a time, be punctual and respectful of any other instructions they may have provided.
- Dress appropriately
It’s Christmas, and while it may not be a formal dinner, it is still a special day of the year.Excesses are not well regarded, but showing up with little or no care for your appearance is equally inappropriate. Dress nicely, in a way that reflects your style. Avoid wearing the latest model of "Christmas sweater," as it often represents consumerism and lack of personality.
- Bring a token of appreciation for the hosts
Whether family gifts have already been agreed upon or the "secret Santa" formula has been chosen, bringing a small token of appreciation for the hosts speaks volumes about you.
It does not have to be expensive—a small bouquet of flowers, a potted little plant, or a box of chocolates will always be well received.
- Table manners
Mind your table manners.The hosts will have set the table to the best of their ability.If you are unsure how to navigate a semi-formal or formal table setting, don’t worry, observe how others behave and follow their lead.There is always time to learn more in the future.
- If something doesn’t appeal to you
If something is not to your liking, keep it to yourself.Remember that the hosts have done their best to cater to their guests, and that effort deserves great respect.
- Avoid controversies
These gatherings are meant to celebrate the holidays, enjoy a relaxed and pleasant time, and appreciate each other’s company. It is not the time to bring up family issues or voice any criticisms. At the end of the day, we want to return home happy to have spent a few enjoyable hours with relatives and/or friends.
- Be grateful
Remember, if you were invited, it is because they wanted you to be part of that group and that monent. Be thankful for the time spent together.What could the alternative have been? Organising the gathering yourself? or staying home alone?
Personal Case History
During my 20 years living in Milan, I will never forget the generosity and affection of a dear friend named Mafi.
Every time she and her family saw that one year I was not hosting or that I was not accompanied, they never hesitated to say, "on December 25th, you’re coming to our house."
We spent the day enjoying her fantastic table, delicious food, and lots of laughter. I always returned home feeling happy.
That generosity, affection, and those hours spent together always left my soul filled with beautiful memories and positive feelings.
EDDA
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